Many parents have similar complaints and worries.
“She never stops using the computer!” father complains. “She never gets enough rest, I wonder if she is suffering from internet addiction?”
Many adolescents harbor similar grudges against their parents.
“I’m not playing games! I just need to use the computer to search for information so I can complete my project. They never believe what I say.”
Learning more about “computer” can help alleviate some of the parents’ worries.
Adopting a different tone of voice or minding the words you use can greatly facilitate your communication with teenagers.
Parent: Can you teach me MSN？
Child: (looks puzzled…)
Parent: I want to know more about online games！
Child: (Thinking to himself, “What’s going on here?…”)
Parent: I know I can learn it from books but I saw you teaching people. You are very good at that. I would really like you to teach me！
Child: (Not sure if he heard the message correctly) Do I?
Parent: Of course! So are you willing to teach me?
Child: Alright… when are you free?
Genuine praise can help break the ice and it can be the first step of engaging your teenager in a conversation.